Selecting an Aisle Runner for a Wedding Ceremony
When it comes to decorations, an aisle runner is really a "nice to have" . However, while an aisle runner is optional... More
Let's face it - nobody wants to be a D.D. at the wedding. Sure, you have that friend that does not drink, and maybe even two, but hey - one or two designated drivers is just not enough to get everyone home or to the hotels from the wedding. And at the weddings, people tend to drink. So plan for transportation for your guests as a separate line item in your plan!
No, not just water (catering can usually provide jars of drinking water) - water bottles. One golden rule of serving alcohol at a wedding that every state-licensed bartender lives by is: "Give them enough water after the reception, and they'll definitely remember your wedding fondly."
It's too common of a scenario: drunken crowds leave the reception, head for the cabs and then straight into beds. At this point your guests will be so dehydrated that the next morning won't be kind to them. As a result, they won't remember your wedding without remembering the pain of a hangover and the headache the next morning. If you want to leave your guests feeling great, have everyone grab a water bottle or two on their way out, and you'll be greeted with smiles the next morning, not grimaces of pain.
Too many couples plan too many things for the day. You too, despite thinking of yourself as a great planner, will most likely plan much more than you can fit in the day.
Let's take Josh and Amanda as an example. Josh and Amanda recently had a ceremony that was to start around noon (that's what the guests were told; the actual time of the reception was scheduled for 1:15 PM to allow all the latecomers to arrive since guests and friends were coming from all over the country), then as guests enjoyed the cocktails and entertainment at the cocktail hour, the couple was to spend two hours doing a photo session in the local town with a photographer. After that, they wanted to spend 15 minutes on a memorable traditional activity and head to the reception.
That plan, of course, did not work out as planned. It was clear the event won't start at 1 PM since the make-up and hair for the bride took a bit too long earlier in the morning, and after the ceremony, the crowd wanted to take pictures with the newlyweds, delaying the planned "bride and groom only" photo session. In the end, the traditional family activity was skipped for the sake of finally getting to the reception site and starting the celebration. To avoid rushing your own day, plan to add extra 30 minutes of transitions between any two activity line items on your schedule.
Believe it or not, the only people who would have prepared a toast will be the parents of the bride and groom. Even then, ensure they tell the MC ahead of time what kind of toast they'll be making and how long it will take. The MC will schedule them in at the appropriate timeslot - either separately or as a couple.
After that, you'll run out of people willing to go for a toast. People will feel like they'd be competing with prepared toasts, the fear of public speaking will kick in, etc. So you need to assign toasts ahead of time - again, have the MC practice the toasts with the guests ahead of time so that the toasts are concise, interesting and coherent (who doesn't have an older aunt who can take 10 minutes to convey a thought?). Ensure MC's schedule contains any and all "key" toasts, and then you can leave space for 2-3 toasts that are "unplanned." By giving people time to prepare good toasts before the wedding, you will get to be surprised by witty and interesting toasts on your special day.